Ingratitude and the Death of Freedom

by Mark T. Mitchell on May 27, 2010 · 14 comments <span>Print this article</span> Print this article

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Kearneysville, WV. I think it is fair to say that gratitude is a somewhat neglected notion, one consigned to the realm of good manners but rarely uttered in dis­cussions of politics. But this oversight comes with a price, for as I will argue, gratitude is one of the necessary, though easily neglected, bulwarks of a sustainable freedom.

Any serious discussion of gratitude must at the same time con­sider its opposite, ingratitude, for—and I am not the first to observe this—we tend to be an ungrateful lot. In 1930 the Spanish philoso­pher Jose Ortega y Gasset observed that modern people are, among other things, characterized by their “radical ingratitude.” This claim does, of course, need defending, and I can imagine the objections from a variety of quarters.

When we speak of gratitude, there will be those who think primar­ily of etiquette: “I taught my children to say ‘please’ and ‘thank you,’ and they usually do.” There will be those who think in personal terms: “I have a nice house, a new car, and a boat. Sure, I’m grate­ful.” Or there will be those who think in terms of the nation: “We live in the greatest nation on earth! Darn right, I’m grateful.” But, although the language of gratitude is not dead—far from it—some­thing is amiss. Our modern, affluent, technological, well-fed society seems to oscillate between smug self-satisfaction and hand-wringing despair, the latter coming on the wave of each new economic, politi­cal, social, or natural disaster.

Gratitude though means more than good manners; it means more than the pleasure associated with possessing plenty of nice things; and it surely means more than mere relief that we’ve managed to escape, or at least survive, the latest crisis. These are perhaps shad­owy reminders of gratitude, but they are not the heart of the issue.

Gratitude is a way of inhabiting the world. It is a disposition toward the world that reminds us that we are not alone. We are not solitary creatures owing nothing to no one. Rather, gratitude points to our dependence. It is a fitting attitude in the face of our creatureliness. When our thoughts are characterized by gratitude, they are outward looking. Gratitude breaks us out of the cocoon of self-satisfaction and self-concern that is a constant temptation and impels us to think of the ways our lives are related to others.

But gratitude is not a disposition we can simply choose to exhibit. We can choose to be friendly regardless of how others treat us. We can choose to act justly even if we have been wronged. But grati­tude is different. It’s a response to goodness. We are grateful when, for example, a stranger helps us find our way in an unfamiliar city, or when a friend presents us with a gift. In both instances we are responding to an act of goodness. Gratitude, then, is different from friendliness or generosity, for they can exist regardless of how another person behaves toward us. They can be initial dispositions. Gratitude, though, is a response. It requires the action of another before it can come into being.

Is there a moral duty to be grateful? Or to put matters in another way, does ingratitude indicate a moral failure? David Hume argued that there are some moral duties “to which men are impelled by a natural instinct or immediate propensity.” Hume ranked gratitude to benefactors, along with love of children and pity to the unfortunate, as moral duties to which humans are naturally drawn. Immanuel Kant wrote that gratitude is “the venerating of another on account of a benefit we have received from him.” Gratitude, according to Kant, is not merely a duty among others but a “sacred duty,” and to violate it would be “to extinguish the moral principles of benevolence, even at their source.” Why does Kant place such an emphasis on grati­tude? The person who is indebted remains always under obligation to the benefactor. This, Kant believed, is true even if the receiver pays back the benefactor in kind; no matter what the receiver sub­sequently does, it will always be the case that the benefactor acted first when nothing but goodness impelled him. To be ungrateful is to forget or ignore this original act of goodness.

Is it also appropriate to think of gratitude as a virtue, as an excel­lence of character? Cicero included gratitude among his list of vir­tues and ingratitude among the vices. As he put it, the virtues (or a good share of the virtues) “proceed from a natural inclination to love and cherish our associates.” Nature, itself, ratifies the law that gives birth to and supports the virtues. Without the ratifying power of nature, “what becomes of generosity, patriotism, or friendship? Where should we find the desire of benefiting our neighbors, or the gratitude that acknowledges kindness?” Gratitude is, for Cicero, a virtue rooted in nature itself. Thus, to act ungratefully to a benefac­tor is to act contrary to nature.

If we see gratitude as a moral duty, ingratitude is a failure to live as duty requires. If, on the other hand, we see it as a moral virtue, ingratitude reveals a flawed character. In either instance, ingratitude is a moral failure that we naturally recognize and condemn.

Furthermore, gratitude requires freedom. It cannot be demanded. It must be freely given. There is, then, an obvious connection be-tween gratitude and freedom of the will. At the same time, there is a connection, perhaps less apparent, between gratitude and political freedom. This connection is best understood when we consider the relationship between gratitude and stewardship.

Gratitude, properly conceived, implies action. To be sure, it is a disposition, but the disposition of gratitude creates a sense of respon­sibility toward one’s benefactor. If one receives a gift, for instance, gratitude would include taking care of that which has been given. If the receiver of a gift carelessly discards it, we would accuse him of ingratitude. To be a steward is to be a caretaker of that which has been entrusted to us. This may be a piece of property, an idea or a concept, or a way of life. Stewards hold something “in trust,” and to be a good steward is to faithfully fulfill that trust.

If gratitude, properly conceived, entails stewardship of that which has been entrusted, then ingratitude implies a failure to steward the gifts one has received. How is ingratitude manifested today? Let’s consider four objects of gratitude that have steadily eroded in our modern world, leaving four debts of gratitude unattended, four aspects of reality unstewarded.

First is the loss of God along with an acknowledgment of a moral law that exists prior to human will. One feature of the modern world, as opposed to that of the medieval world, is the ascendancy of skep­ticism. While religion has not yet faded into oblivion, the West is increasingly characterized by its secularism. Even in societies where religion remains strong, there is mounting pressure to domesticate religious belief in a purely private sphere so that political and social engagement is, for all intents and purposes, bereft of religious con­tent. God has perhaps not been killed, as Nietzsche gloated, but he has, in many quarters, been reduced to a mere placeholder or at best a subjective reflection of our best opinions about ourselves. Debts of gratitude to such a contentless being are not obvious or pressing. Nor are moral limits recognized as meaningful in a world where the moral law has been tossed aside.

Second, we have lost contact with the natural world. In an age where we are increasingly insulated and isolated from nature, we can become blind to the gifts all around us. When we come to think of our milk, meat, and vegetables as products of the grocery store, we have lost sight of reality. We have lost sight of the simple fact that we are sustained physically by animals, by the grass that feeds them, and by the dirt that nourishes the grass, all of which in turn are nourished by the sun. This is no small oversight, for when we fail to recognize our debts of gratitude to the natural world, we will read­ily, even cheerfully, neglect our duties. The result will invariably be characterized by carelessness, exploitation, and greed.

Third, we have too often lost a sense of place. Ours is a highly mobile society. We can travel with ease, and we can leave home and begin anew someplace else. Even if we stay put, the possibility of leaving can remain forever a live option in our world of infinite choices. But when the places we inhabit are seen as merely stepping-stones to the next job, the next opportunity, or the next means to stave off our boredom, commitment to a particular place wanes. We content ourselves with being residents though not citizens. Such attenuated commitments are inadequate to generate the love and affection for a particular place and people that is necessary for long-term stewardship. Stewards—so necessary for the health of a place—are replaced by individuals who see themselves not as caretakers but as consumers, extracting what they can from a community and leaving it when it no longer satisfies.

Finally, we have experienced a loss of the past. America has always been a place of the future. But in embracing the promise of tomor­row, it is all too easy to forget or at least neglect our debts to the past. To be bereft of a coherent and meaningful attachment to the past is to be unaware of what we have inherited. When we are ignorant of the mores, practices, customs, and institutions that constitute our collective past, we will readily neglect them in our headlong pursuit of the future. We will easily cast them aside if short-term advantage appears to necessitate their removal. Cultural and political stability therefore require awareness of the past. We bear the burden of those who have gone before. We owe a debt of gratitude that can never be fully repaid. When we are properly grateful, we seek to preserve what has been entrusted to us, tending it for a time—and if we raise our sons and daughters well, if they have seen us bear our burden faithfully and with care, they may assume their own burden of grati­tude when our time is past. In this way—and no other—culture is transmitted.

At the end of the long winter at Valley Forge, George Washington praised the steadfastness of the American soldiers in such difficult circumstances. These soldiers, he wrote, “will despise the meanness of repining at such trifling strokes of Adversity, trifling indeed when compared to the transcendent Prize which will undoubtedly crown their Patience and Perseverance, Glory and Freedom, Peace and Plenty to themselves and the Community; The Admiration of the World, the Love of Country and the Gratitude of Posterity!” Yes, the world would admire them, and their country would love them, but

generations yet unborn would rise to thank them, for their sacrifice lasted only a few months, but the debt of gratitude would extend down through the generations as free men and women reaped the bounty of the sacrifices made in that frozen place. In other words, gratitude directed at the past ultimately implies a sense of duty to the future. Washington thought in those terms. His rhetoric suggests he believed his men thought the same.

The fact that today, one of the most significant things we are pass­ing on to our children is a national debt of breathtaking size, a debt that will necessarily truncate their freedom, suggests that we have lost the extra sense of gratitude and the corresponding sense of stew­ardship that the general and his men shared.

Gratitude, properly conceived, gives birth to ongoing acts of stew­ardship. From God we have been given life. We have knowledge of the moral law that provides the basis of order for human relations. Gratitude leads to respect for the dignity of human life and a willing­ness to live within the limits imposed by the moral law. The natural world provides us with that which sustains our physical existence. We should care for it with wisdom and gentleness. We have inher­ited from our collective parents a way of life in a particular place, a way of organizing ourselves politically and socially, a way of govern­ing ourselves. These goods, practices, and institutions cannot sur­vive much less thrive if they are treated casually or neglected. They require careful tending, constant nourishment, and loving care.

The freedoms we enjoy require not only vigilance but also fidelity, so that even when alterations in our social and political institutions are introduced, an underlying continuity remains. The alternative is perpetual innovation, which is to say perpetual revolution. Freedom cannot thrive in such a volatile atmosphere. When we are tempted to take our freedom for granted we are in serious danger, for freedom is only sustainable when carefully preserved and wisely protected. When it is treated merely as an item to be consumed or as a right to be demanded, freedom is in jeopardy.

Ironically, freedom itself can foster the mental habits that under­mine freedom. Chief among these is ingratitude. The affluence we enjoy is, in large part, a product of our freedom. Yet affluence can actually distract us from a proper sense of gratitude. In ages of mar­ginal or even scanty provisions, it is perhaps easier to think in terms of gratitude, for nothing is taken for granted. A person might even pray earnestly for daily bread and then thank God when it arrives. In an age of plenty, comforts are easily taken for granted, and how much more the daily bread by which we live? Could it be that grati­tude is more difficult precisely because we have so much for which to be thankful?

Affluence and the headlong pursuit thereof can induce in us the belief that consuming is our proper end and that freedom is the natu­ral state of human affairs. Neither is true. A life given over to mere consumption is not befitting creatures capable of noble acts, and freedom is a tender plant that requires jealous protection against its natural foes. If we are not attentive, the heady wine of freedom can induce us to forget or neglect the debts of gratitude we owe. Like spoiled children we demand the benefits of freedom while ignoring the fact that these fruits are the product of generations of struggle, sacrifice, and hard work. The debt goes unpaid, and the capital is recklessly spent.

Gratitude, ultimately, is born of humility, for it acknowledges that both the creation and our civilization are gifts. This recognition gives birth to acts marked by attention and responsibility. Ingratitude, on the other hand, is marked by hubris, which denies the gift, and this always leads to inattention, irresponsibility, and abuse. In political terms, the hubris of ingratitude is a caustic acid that reduces all in its wake to the fetid condition of servitude, for a spoiled child needs nothing so much as a master.

Thus, if gratitude is the mother of stewardship, ingratitude strips away the ground for an adequate account of stewardship and leaves nothing behind but a narrow concern for the self. Forgotten is our collective debt to God, the natural world, to a place, and to the past, all of which are necessary for an adequate understanding of our debts to both the past and the future. When duties are neglected, all that remains is the pursuit of pleasure or power. Neither pursuit sustains freedom. In fact, as these become increasingly the focus of our indi­vidual and corporate lives, freedom is correspondingly diminished. Freedom, to be durable, must exist within the context of responsibil­ities that limit freedom, yet in the process heighten its meaning by orienting it according to ideals of self-sacrifice, love of community, and care for others.

If freedom produces conditions that induce ingratitude, and ingratitude represents a threat to freedom, then it seems we have reached the ironic position where we extol the virtues of freedom yet discover that the very thing we champion is a danger to itself. What can be done? Clearly we must attempt to cultivate the disposition of gratitude. This will give birth to acts of stewardship, which are necessary to sustain an orderly and mature freedom. Unconstrained by stewardship and gratitude, freedom will invariably descend into license, and license will eventually decline into lawlessness. In such an atmosphere, tyranny is nurtured even as freedom suffocates and eventually dies.

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avatar Bruce Smith May 27, 2010 at 9:04 am

Gratitude depends in large measure on having rights. One of the main rights most people are deprived of is to be a trader as opposed to a commodity in the supposedly “free” market. By this I mean the right, for example, not to have your income terminated by traders who give your job to a person in a lower waged country in the interests of profit efficiency and because those traders have command of your country’s global trading policy. To ensure that we can all be traders requires democratic intervention by government to establish equality of law in the matter and to facilitate legal purchase of capital to achieve a “balanced” market of traders. Rugged Individualism as currently practiced simply doesn’t work as an aspiration because it involves depriving others of their rights; Mutual Individualism does. It also requires democratic intervention to ensure your country has a global trading policy that avoids privileging the few long term as well as avoiding the ultimate subversion of the economy through reduced demand for goods and services. It is obviously in the interest of the current minority of traders to hypocritically attack the idea that government should have much role in anything let alone intervening to balance rights and the Tea Party movement does just that. It seeks alliance with the minority traders party, the Republican Party, not the Democratic Party despite the fact that historically the most fiscally irresponsible party has been the Republican Party:-

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_debt_by_U.S._presidential_terms

The tragedy is that this country will have to be brought to its knees economically before a majority understands the great human capacity to quickly change its culture and create equality of rights in matters of economic trading. It is our human ability to rapidly learn from others and quickly change our cultural mindset that we should have gratitude for. We seem, however, to have forgotten we can do this enmass.

avatar John Médaille May 27, 2010 at 9:05 am

Let me suggest that gratitude requires one more attribute: realism. That is, the honest recognition and acknowledgment that the most important aspects of our lives are gifts. Aside from the gift of being itself, there are the gifts of our names, families, language, culture, community, nation, class. Once we recognize all of these things as pure gift, we are better able to see the world as it is and ourselves as we are. We tend to believe, on very little evidence, that we somehow “deserve” what we have. We worked for it. We made good choices. Those other who don’t have what we have are mere losers. But when we don’t have what others have, then somehow we have been denied our “rights.”

Benedict has perplexed the world by putting the principle of gratuitousness at the heart of economic and social order. By doing so he has confounded–and confused the world. But that is because it is a self-absorbed world that cannot see things as they are, even in the most obvious cases. Recognizing our lives as a gift which requires a return in gratitude is the basis of all realism.

avatar Jeffrey Polet May 27, 2010 at 6:07 pm

Bruce,

Your point concerning the connection between gratitude and rights eludes me. Think, for example, of the phenomenon of prison literature, where the prisoner, at the very moment of the suspension of his rights, discovers the nature of his freedom and is filled with gratitude. We see this the examples of St. Paul, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, and Martin Luther King, Jr. Perhaps the most dramatic example of this comes from Solzhenitsyn’s Gulag Archipelago where, at the conclusion of “The Ascent” he expresses gratitude to the prison for being in his life. I take it a good part of Mark’s point is that we err if we wrap the virtue of gratitude in the liberal regime of rights.

avatar Bruce Smith May 27, 2010 at 7:01 pm

Gulag Gratitude.

Jeffrey. I would agree that gratitude is not solely about rights. It is a long time ago since I ploughed my way with morbid curiosity through the volumes of Solzhenitsyn’s “Gulag Archipelago” and other books including “Cancer Ward”. They certainly ripped the blinkers from my eyes concerning the viciousness of totalitarian regimes. It would seem though the Gulag Archipelago is still going strong In China with Western contrivance:-

http://business.timesonline.co.uk/tol/business/industry_sectors/technology/article7138073.ece

I don’t think somehow many of the 350,000 mostly migrant workers at the vast factory in Shenzhen, Southern China, who are having to experience the quasi-gulag conditions of the twelve hour working days with accompanying ambience of regular suicide news and rumors are feeling tremendous gratitude for their opportunity to provide cheap consumer electronic goods for Western consumers. It sounds more a matter of basic survival or not. I really do not think we would be that grateful if forced to do the same.

avatar Mark May 27, 2010 at 7:35 pm

How do we repay the many ways we are blessed by listening to a Haydn string quartet or a Dvorak symphony? How do we repay being moved by an Andrew Wyeth painting, or delighting in the poetry of Wendell Berry or Richard Wilbur? What do we owe the beauty of a sunset over the Blue Ridge Mountains or the satisfaction of good, rewarding work or a simple meal? To whom do we direct our gratitude simply for being vertical and breathing? Seemingly, rights or have little to with gratitude. As St. Paul wrote, “What do we have that we have not received?” The soul of modernity is expressed eloquently by Bart Simpson, when he prays over a meal, “Dear God, we bought all this food all by ourselves so thanks for nothing.”

avatar Howard Merrell May 27, 2010 at 9:08 pm

The beginning of a ruined society:
“For even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks . . . (Romans 1:21, NASB)

avatar Jon Cook May 28, 2010 at 9:10 am

Good essay. Bruce, while our freedoms certainly give us much much more to be grateful for (and apropos to this coming Monday, being grateful to those who have put all on the line to protect our freedoms), I think Jeffery’s point is that all humans can find things to be grateful for, even when circumstances seem otherwise. I once read an interview of a Chinese pastor who had been in prison and whose particular job in prison ironically was to make Christmas lights for export to the West; he was asked if then Westerners should stop buying Chinese-made Christmas lights and said no, that plenty of lights were made outside of prisons, and those families need to eat. For a wonderful perspective on how much America has lost its vision of gratefulness for its prosperity, see the movie “God Grew Tired of Us”. Finally, one the issue of rights, I am so tired of hearing people talk about their rights, demand their rights, and on and on; I wish the founding fathers had drafted up a bill of responsibilities along with the Bill of Rights, only it was so ingrained in them they didn’t even need to consider it. How far we have fallen.

avatar Bruce Smith May 28, 2010 at 9:44 am

I think a clearer way of stating the relationship between gratitude and rights is to argue that because we exist as social animals gratitude is a normative and necessary part of our existence. Gratitude involves a mutualized taking of responsibility for each other. This propensity for altruism is both genetic and cultural. Its origins are fundamentally derived from the drives for dominance in the form of counter, or reverse, dominance. If we find it of benefit to take responsibility for each other (which we clearly have reviewing the historical achievements of human cooperation)then we would want the same rights for others as we would for ourselves. What interferes with our propensity to take responsibility for each other is the institutionalization of income producing property. This has been revealed very clearly in recent days with Rand Paul trying to face in two different directions at the same time. As a naive Libertarian he attempted to make property rights trump “taking responsibility for each other,” or civil/democratic rights, and failed miserably. At least we should show gratitude to Libertarianism for making this clear to those who think about such issues. The number of people who do would appear to be growing as this article on the Purple Movement suggests:-

http://www.opendemocracy.net/emanuele-toscano/i%25E2%2580%2599m-my-personal-revolution-purple-movement-in-italy

avatar Bruce Smith May 28, 2010 at 10:00 am

Jon Cook. The point is that we don’t have the “right” set of “rights” to enable and encourage us to take responsibility for each other. Where should the responsibility lie for encouraging us to be less empathic towards each other unless its a culture that makes too big a deal of competitive individualism? Read what you may into this recently released University of Michigan survey but it would appear to chime with the causes of the Financial Crash:-

http://www.newswise.com/articles/view/565005/?sc=rsln

avatar Mark May 28, 2010 at 1:18 pm

When I hear the word “rights” what comes to mind is the notion of justice. Justice is best defined as “giving every one his due.” What is due a man? Justice says that what is due a man must be granted him. Intertwined in this are notions of desert and merit. Again, what is due him? What can man claim? Where is it claimed or declared what is due man? What script do we consult? Where do rights come from? How is GRATITUDE extrapolated from rights?

avatar D.W. Sabin May 29, 2010 at 3:23 pm

Gratitude is not extrapolated from Rights…it is the foundation of any sustaining sense of “rights”. One cannot develop a useful set of “rights” without a profound sense of gratitude. In fact, one can assert that with each defiantly proclaimed “right” comes the head of gratitude on a gibbet.

We speak now almost continuously of all manner of “rights” as though the simple fact of our existence is somehow a kind of magic benediction of the sacred self. “Rights” and “Resentment” skip hand in hand down the street now, giggling over the untimely death of Responsibility.

What is due man? A breath of air and little more.

avatar Bruce Smith May 30, 2010 at 4:38 am

The Golden Rule is the expression of gratitude for rights.

avatar Franklin Evans June 6, 2010 at 12:07 pm

Excellent essay. I have a possibly complementary view, one that places gratitude (and its decline) as the opposite of the “cult of entitlement”. Ingratitude is nearly an unconscious attribute and prerequisite for entitlement, one hardly needing to muster anything that remotely resembles gratitude, humility, or even a sense of connection to the sources from which we acquire or receive that for which we could express gratitude.

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